We all deserve someone who loves us no matter what and be with us for the longest time. We long for companionship but sometimes, things are not the way we want it. As much as we want to settle down and build a family, we have to look deep and be certain if we are ready.
It is a pleasant feeling traipsing the aisle with our love one but being ready is another thing. We have to know the signs that will tell us whether we are ready or not to settle down. Here are some signs:
- You are still selfish: Marriage is a give and take relationship. You will not get what you want all the time and there will be more times to let go of luxury just for the sake of your partner. If you are still hung up on your own desires and needs, you are definitely not yet ready.
- Your past is unsolved: Marriage is a serious matter, probably more serious than purchasing your own HDB flat here in Singapore. Your past should be solved so it won’t linger and affect the present. The emotional baggage should be unpacked. If you are still not over your past (probably an ex or an addiction), you should not think of settling down.
- You have tons of secrets: Marriage is a lifetime partnership and if you have tons of skeletons in your closet, either speak it up or not think of settling down. Do not lock everything because you cannot hide it forever.
- You have hesitations: If you have hesitations, you should not think of settling down for the meantime. Your partner should understand your hesitations and doubts to curb bitterness.